Coach T's Parent Resource Tips
Strengthening Your Relationship with Your Child
In my research in putting some of these courses together, I came across some interesting and helpful information on parent/child relationships. I thought these may help those of you that may be having communication, respect or other concerns. Some of these may seem like obvious solutions, but sometimes it is seeing it that helps.
Coping with Social Distancing as a Parent
Spending weeks at home with limited resources and being cut off from work, other meaningful activities, and social contact can take a toll on mental health. The added strain of financial difficulties, physical illness, and home-schooling add to parental stress. Anxiety, depression, boredom, loneliness, difficulty sleeping, and frustration are normal reactions. To care for children effectively, parents must also look after themselves.
• Limit your exposure to news reports about Covid-19. Plan to check a reliable news source 1-2 times a day and then balance the news with work, household chores, reading, music, and other activities or hobbies.
• Try to create a regular routine of activities such as exercise, work, gardening or learning something new or time with children.
• Use social media to connect with family and friends and share your experiences and emotions.
• Eat healthy food, sleep well and exercise.
• Try not to catastrophize; stop negative thoughts to focus what you can do and not on what you can’t do; remember you are doing social distancing to protect yourself and others. Remind yourself this will eventually be over.
• Use relaxation, mindfulness & yoga exercises; use positive imagery, muscle relaxation, and deep breathing to stay calm.
• Keep a positive attitude & accept there are events you cannot control.
• Model staying calm and patient for your children as this will help them feel safe and secure. Keep saying to yourself, “We’ll get through this,” “We will figure out a way,” “I know how uplifting it can be to empower and help others,” “If I don’t panic, I can problem solve more clearly,” “I can ask for help and it is okay to talk about my feelings.”
• Take a break from interactions with your family members if you are not in control of your emotions. (e.g., “I need a few minutes to calm down. I’m going to water the flowers for 10 minutes and will be back afterwards so we can continue this.”)
• Reassure your child that your family is your top priority and that your job is to keep them safe.
Things You Can Do as a Good Parent
Listen to their concerns and not minimizing them.
Telling them you love them
Spend more one on one time
Don’t try too hard to be the perfect parents.
Teach them lessons…look for teachable moments.
Create happy memories for children.
Prioritize effort over results.
Make time to have your own life.
Create strong emotional connections inside the family.
Tip #1: Don’t wait until it’s too late
Tip #2: Practice what you preach
Tip #3: Give your teen some control